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Styles of Parenting
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There are three basic styles of parenting. Parents will at one time or another use all three styles, but tend to rely on one approach.
The autocratic parent uses reward and punishment to enforce requests. Children are given detailed instructions and expected to follow them. There is little or no room for the child to creatively solve problems.
Research shows that children brought up in autocratic families seldom thrive. Either their spirits are broken and they give up or they rebel. This rebellion usually happens during the teenage years, when the child has developed enough power to fight back.
The permissive parent allows the child to do his or her own thing. In these households there is little respect for order and routine. Few limits are placed on anyone's freedom.
Children raised within the permissive style feel insecure. They have almost no sense of belonging. Because they have not learned to cooperate they are often difficult to live with. These children have difficulty adjusting when the world outside the family begins imposing rules on their behavior.
In the respectful or democratic style of parenting the parent is the leader and teacher who encourages cooperation and stimulates learning. As the child assumes more and more responsibility, the parent gradually releases the limits.
Research has shown that the respectful parenting style produces positive self-concept, honesty, responsibility, compassion, problem-solving skills, self-control, and acceptance of self and others.
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